Plan to be Content

Reaching contentment,

Reaching contentment in our day and age is a challenge, especially for our children. They are bombarded with media that tells them they should get what they want and fast. How do we bring them through the brainwashing to an understanding of the truth in Philippians 4:11-13?

"I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength."

First and foremost you must model it. That is not to say you won't slip up from time to time, but find the truth in these verses and try to own them for yourself. Kids today see right through the old saying, "Do as I say not as I do".

Next help them through each disappointment with a fresh view point. Help them reflect on any other experience they had that was frustrating or disappointing and how something good came out of it that they couldn't see at the time. Perhaps a move to a new home was hard for the friends that were left, but the new friends are just as wonderful.

Help them keep a prayer journal. Let them pray and write their disappointments and frustrations to God. He can handle it. God wants us to bring all of ourselves to Him. As you keep track in a journal, look back from time to time on past prayers and laments and see if you can find a silver lining or lesson learned from that experience that you can point out to them. Don't forget to add praises to your journal. It is very important for your child to be able to see the inner workings of the Holy Spirit in their lives.

Help your child learn the difference between what they need and what they want. God promises to give us what we need. Everything else is icing on the cake and not a necessity. Help them realize how much they have that doesn't fall under the need category. Help them to be thankful for the many blessings instead of focusing on what they don't /can't have.

Sometimes it is helpful to show them how people live with less and how blessed they are. Take them to visit a shelter or show them how others live in 3rd world countries by going on the Internet. Name something in the room and let your kids tell how life would be different if the item didn't exist or hadn't been invented. Help them realize that having it is a blessing from God.

These are just a few starter ideas. This is a journey that is counter cultural. It won't be easy, but your child will be vastly more happy if they learn to be content.

Blessings to you all


Brenda