Check your attitude at the door

Is your home a sanctuary or a battlefield? No matter what is going on in your family's world on the outside, once they walk through the door of your house there should be an understanding that this is a safe place. Help your children learn to affirm and not tear down. Help them understand the feelings of others in the family by putting themselves in the other person's shoes, emotionally. For instance, when one family member says something hurtful to another, you can ask that person how they would feel if that was said to them the same way.

Help your child, and all your family, understand that once they walk through that door, they can expect to be safe, loved, and affirmed. Even correction can be done in such a way as to help a child learn without feeling threatened. Remaining calm in body language and tone when discussing an offense will help your child focus on the wrong done and not immediately go to the defensive.

As parents we are the rudder that steers the ship. What we model sets the tone for the environment. Now granted siblings will be siblings, and sin nature is a factor. Help your children learn to resolve issues through calm conversations and compromise. Time to cool off may be essential in getting to this end, but modeling is the key. Give them words and tone to use in their negotiations. Help them discover compromise and peace is the expectation of your home.

Now times will come where evil will get a foothold in your home. I have had all 4 of my children freaking out at once and it was more than normal and stronger than normal. You will sense that something has infiltrated your home. When this happens you MUST do a prayer walk. Walk through the floors of your home and pray. Send satan packing. At night when all your children are asleep, go into their rooms and lay your hands on them. Pray protection from evil. I promise you this works. Satan will not stay in a home where he is being expelled in the name of Jesus.

Rest assured that raising your children in this day and age is a spiritual battle of monumental proportions. You serve the winner of this battle. Call on Him and His power regularly to defeat him who seeks to destroy your family.

God will prevail.
Blessings to you all.
Brenda