Working Hard or Hardly Working

No I'm definitely not talking about the parents. Working hard is never hardly working with us. I am talking about your children. Now that they are heading back to school we enter the wonderful world of juggling chores and homework. UUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHH! Wouldn't it be great if kids came wired to work hard and stick with something until it was finished. Here are some helpful tips from the people at Gospel Light publications.

* Break the task down into little bites. For example, when loading the dishwasher, divide the task into glasses, bowls, plates, silverware, etc. Teach your child to complete a small task and then say to himself/herself, "What's next?"

* Schedule breaks. Decide upfront at what points in the project you'll take 5 minute breaks. Use a timer. Just knowing that a break is coming can keep you working.

*Lighten the load by having someone join you in the task. It can make the project manageable and even fun. Make a game or contest out of it. Only play a favorite CD during unpleasant tasks to lighten the air.

*When the task is done, say, "Doesn't it feel good to complete a job?" Remind them next time how good if felt to finish the last job.

I know that there is a school of thought out there that goes the sticker chart route when trying to encourage self direction. Just a small warning: if you are giving rewards for accomplishing tasks (So many stickers gets you a treat, etc.), you will lose the progress when you stop the process. Instead, I would recommend focusing on internal reward. Help them feel good about themselves for their accomplishment. Remind them that God is pleased with them and that we should do our best to glorify Him. If they are only doing something to get something they will always need to be rewarded or they will quit.

I know those of you reading this have had many experiences with success and failure in this area. Share some of those with us so we can learn from each other. If you don't want to share in an open forum like this, feel free to email it to me and I will share your thoughts without identifying you.

Colossians 3:23 "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men."

Blessings
Brenda