Hardwork is hardly hard if you work it out.

Our children have to be encouraged to be hard workers. Encourage them to do their best and not give up when things get tough.

For little ones, help them learn to use their words instead of misbehavior to tell you when a job is too hard so you can help them make it easier. Find ways to make it fun like; singing while the work, racing, or moving like a robot, etc.

For older ones, have them think through what part of their homework is too hard. Arrange for review or backing up and filling in the holes. Have them be sure to get more information about the assignment ahead of time. You may need to work out a communication system between you and your child's teachers. Note pads or planners are really good for this. Allow them to take 5 minute breaks. Put them in an area with fewer distractions, turn off the TV, etc.

When it comes to chores, they may just not want to do it. Find out why. Maybe you want them to clean their room during the only show they look forward to each week, maybe they are lazy or feel entitled to not have to do it. Find the source of their reluctance and start to deal with that first.

If it is laziness or entitlement share scripture with them and ask them, "What if mom decided she didn't want to make dinner or pack you a lunch?" "How would that be?" Help them to think beyond themselves to how they affect the bigger picture and how their contribution helps others. (Proverbs 10:4, 13:4, 20:4) Be sure to share with them positive things about how their accomplished chore is appreciated and why.

If it is a timing thing, discuss a possible compromise or at least an explaination as to why it has to happen at that time. Children need to learn that sacrifice is part of life, but if the time is not locked consider working something out.

Mostly, don't get discouraged. It takes a long time to train a child to be a hardworker. Commit this to the Lord and push forward. Ultimately, it is God who is in control of your child's path, not you. You are His tool, so just be prayerful and faithfully available.